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Why I Am Okay With Not Forcing Friendships Anymore

Why I Am Okay With Not Forcing Friendships Anymore Let me start by asking you a question, has there ever been a time in your life that you found yourself changing in order to please others? For a substantial part of my life, I had been concerned as to whether or not people liked me. I just didn’t care for the thought of someone being out there who simply did not like me. When I switched schools, I remember wanting the easiest transition possible, which to me, included making as many friends as I could. I found that this caused me to morph or hide parts of myself for years in order to pursue friendships that at the end of the day, weren’t that fulfilling. Over the past year, this has been an eye opening time to reevaluate my friendships. By not being forced to see people who we...

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An Open Letter To My Brothers: Thank You For Letting Me Be A Big Sister

Thank you for letting me be a big sister Growing up, my siblings and I were constantly busy. From running to sports practices, to community service clubs, to study groups, we were always two ships passing in the night. Don’t get me wrong, it was so awesome to be in such a motivating and inspiring environment where all of us drew strength from one another. However, even though I kept up to date on what my brothers were doing, I never felt like I knew how they were doing.  Then March of 2020 hit and I was given a second chance to reconnect with them. Being home and not having any of the distractions that usually plagued our lives, I was finally able to build a relationship with both of them. From what started as just popping into one another's rooms to talk about a funny thi...

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One Of The Biggest Lessons I Have Learned During The Pandemic

Never be afraid of change! Wow, what a year this has been. With the world constantly spinning around us, especially this past year when it seemed like we couldn’t catch a break, it is crucial to make sure that we are grounded. The most helpful way I have found to do this is to ensure that I am being fulfilled by the activities that I am involved in. Whether it’s a rewarding part-time job or a weekly club, I want my activities to be a time where I am built up rather than dragged down. I am very grateful that this past year has taught me how to identify when I am in a negative state and not be afraid to change it! For instance, during those dark pandemic days where it was truly terrifying to even think of going outside, I had to keep finding the little things that made me happy. ...

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The Importance of Living in the Spectacular Now

The Importance of Living in the Spectacular Now I want to start this post by asking you to reflect on a couple questions: how many times this past year did you say to yourself “when Covid-19 is over, I will finally be able to do this”. For me, I must have said this sentence hundreds if not thousands of times but let’s take a step back. How many times have you said, prior to the pandemic, “when this event is over, I will finally be able to do this”.  Whether this event is homework, focusing on your physical health, meeting with friends, traveling, or whatever it may be, we need to stop allowing ourselves to miss out on the spectacular moments life encompasses. Granted, there are times that you need to buckle down but we must learn to set boundaries with these externalities or...

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How I Completely Transformed My Mindset After The Hardest Moment Of My Life

How I transformed my mindset... No one tells you when you are going through a moment in your life that will change you forever. That’s exactly what happened to me my senior year of high school.  Let me paint the picture: since the start of my educational career, I have always studied the hardest to be the best I could be. A’s weren’t enough, I needed to receive A+’s and additional remarks. Having put this pressure on myself my whole life, I thought it was always a good thing. It made me extend myself to being the president of multiple clubs, the captain of my cheer team, complete extensive volunteer work and involve myself in other extracurriculars. Life was always busy with progressing to the next task in order to make myself feel like I was in control of the path I was...

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What I Have Learned Working In A Small Business Run By Women

What I Have Learned Working In A Small Business Run By Women... For the past six months, I have been working at a boutique that is run by two incredible women. Each day I come to work, my perception is broadened as to how important community is when building a business. Seeing the connection and love others have for the store is amazing! I have also learned that every opportunity can be presented by taking a different path. There is definitely not one way to do something. For instance, I know this may sound silly, but my whole life I have been ingrained that I needed to go to college in order to start my career. However, that is not the case for many professions. There are successful paths that do not need another degree while there are other professions that need additional ...

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How To Stop Basing Your Values In Other’s Opinions

How To Stop Basing Your Values In Other’s Opinions Peer and societal pressures are real... Now, I’m not referencing experiences such as your grandma trying to pawn off some of her chocolate chip cookies to you, I’m referencing ways you alter your personality, mediums of expression and overall beliefs of the world around you to please those in your inner circle. We are all unique individuals. Why should we be forced to morph with the pack to feel more stable when we are all destined to push the boundaries and take risks? I can’t say I have always strayed away from following others. In high school, I found I was constantly altering the words that came out of my mouth or the way I dressed because I was afraid that others would think.This then transformed to me loosing sight of who ...

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How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work For You

How to Make A Long Distance Relationship Work For You Okay... I get it. The phrase “long-distance” is one that holds many negative stereotypes when it comes to relationships. It's scary, I know. Time away from your significant other can be really challenging. However, it’s not all infrequent phone calls and tissue boxes. When you are forced to spend time away from your partner, you are granted a period to really reflect upon the value that your relationship adds to your life. While you are away from one another, you have ample time to talk and continue to learn more about one another than you would have when relaxing and watching Netflix. You are even granted more time to fully involve yourself in your interests and passions. Even though this all may sound great, it only is if yo...

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How to Jumpstart Your 2021 To Make it Your Year

It's 2021!!!! If “celebrate good times c’mon” by Kool & the Gang is not ringing in your ears as much as it is in mine this year then we have an issue. We made it! We beat 2020, one of the most unpredictable and emotionally challenging years we have had! We have endless opportunity ahead of us. We should celebrate!    While this time of happiness and forging a new path for ourselves may be in full swing, we must not forget the circumstances that came our way that not only challenged us, but strengthened us this past year. Never again will we be utterly surprised by a global moment that stops the world. We are now supplied with skills and more knowledge about how to not only "get through" but to thrive during trying times. 2020 was the year we learned to take a step b...

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Empowerment Series: Jeannie Burford

Jeannie Burford I am so lucky to be able to say that Jeannie Burford is my mom. My whole life she has been my biggest cheerleader. She is someone that I can, without a doubt, look to in order to feel like I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. Not only is she a Senior Financial Advisor in her office, but she is one of the founding members of Boys Team Charity in Santa Barbara.  On top of all of this, she is ALWAYS there for any one of my siblings or I, avidly bikes, hikes, walks, enjoys traveling, making flower arrangements, baking, and offers advice to graduating college students who are interested in going into financial careers. She is truly the most inspiring person I know. My whole life I witnessed my mom waking up at 5am....

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