Why I Am Okay With Not Forcing Friendships Anymore
Let me start by asking you a question, has there ever been a time in your life that you found yourself changing in order to please others?
For a substantial part of my life, I had been concerned as to whether or not people liked me. I just didn’t care for the thought of someone being out there who simply did not like me. When I switched schools, I remember wanting the easiest transition possible, which to me, included making as many friends as I could. I found that this caused me to morph or hide parts of myself for years in order to pursue friendships that at the end of the day, weren’t that fulfilling.
Over the past year, this has been an eye opening time to reevaluate my friendships. By not being forced to see people who were in the same social groups, classes, workplace or ext, I was able to take stock in the individuals that made me feel like… well me. I found people who let me express my humor, judgement free, and others who always knew how to build me up regardless if I was having a good day or not. These characteristics are found in those I know that I can always count on.
At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter how big your social circle is. It’s awesome if you do have a lot of friends but what is more important is finding those gems of people that provide you with an even relationship. One that you both equally reach out and want to spend time together or where you both can not only vent to one another but also celebrate your achievements.
Having those types of friendships are hard to find. But boy when you do, it’s like stumbling upon extended family. Being fulfilled by your friends is more important than anything, but it has to go both ways. One sided relationships are emotionally and physically draining. By stepping back and reevaluating my circle, I have found so much more fulfillment. I not only love these people but I am motivated and inspired by all of them which is something I couldn’t have said earlier in my life.