What No One Tells You About Moving Back Home
Raise your hand if this past year you had to move back home unexpectedly?
My hand is raised too and yes, I am still living here. This past year has been unique for many different reasons. With the world slowly opening up, I found myself reflecting upon what no one tells you about moving back home.
As a twenty year old, I have always looked to my parents for guidance in whatever endeavors I am embarking upon. With being away for a year and then coming back, our relationship dynamic has shifted for the better. When coming home, my parents initially parented me, which is understandable given the world circumstances we were facing. However, the longer I have been here, I feel that my parents have seen me mature and grow intellectually that now our relationship is on a new more adult level. Having this mutual respect for one another has allowed my personal confidence to strengthen tremendously.
Not only has my relationship grown with my parents, but it has also strengthened with my brothers and grandparents who live in town. On certain nights of the week, my brothers and I will drive over and have dinner with my grandparents. We wouldn’t have been able to do this if I was not there because I am the more “planny” one. Just being here for the little things like this…
or being able to house-sit for my grandparents when they have a doctor’s appointment has really grown our relationships too. Having more time to be present with everyone is such a gift that I have tried to not take for granted.
Additionally, let’s talk about money. This past year I have been so fortunate to save money by not having to pay for my dorm or apartment, paying for dinners out or financing my Starbucks addiction. With all of this “extra” money that I am not spending, this has allowed me to further help contribute to my college tuition which substantially alleviated my parent’s stress. I also feel that having access to a kitchen has been crucial for me. I have learned to not only cook but choose healthier meals that fuel me for a busy day at school or work. I know that these cooking habits that I have developed will stick once I return to campus.
Lastly, I feel most comfortable when I am in my childhood room. Here, I am so fortunate to be able to have MY space where I can study, focus quietly, move mountains of work and call my friends. Not having to share this part of space has been essential to me recharging my personal battery and being ready to excel in the activities that I am a part of. Before moving home, I thought I would be so distracted by my family but since we have all formed our own personal routines, it has been quite the opposite.
Moving home isn’t a death sentence. I have been so fortunate to grow my family relationships, develop healthier lifestyle habits and save more money. No matter where you are, it all matters about how you approach the situation. If you are open to it, you will have a more positive experience and benefit greater in the long run. And that’s what no one tells you about moving back home!